Tuesday, May 24, 2011

The Fundamental of a Black Woman's Attitude

Women are complex creatures. Especially Black women. We have a rich history and lifestyle that is like no other. Still we have such a hard time being accepted and understood. I hate when someone assumes I roll my neck and eat watermelon just because I'm black. I do those things, but it's because of who I am inside, not the color of my skin. This is who we are...
I asked my Twitter and Facebook friends what they felt the fundamentals or main characteristics of a black woman's attitude were. Surprisingly, NOT ONE woman responded. All of my responses were from men and they all pretty much said the same thing. Black women are mean and selfish.
As soon as I saw this my defenses went up. How dare you call me a stingy bitch! But I have to accept that this our stereotype. I have to admit that there is some truth to that. Black women tend to be more aggressive than other races. Let me explain why.
In African American culture single mothers are the norm. Marriage is not held in the highest regard since we feel that a piece of paper doesn't determine our love. Add in the fact that most black men don't want to be tied down to one woman and you have a woman who can't get a man to respect her and that's not being the father that he should be. So she has a chip on her shoulder. She doesn't feel she deserves the life she's living so of course she has an attitude. Not only that, she has to be strong for her family and her children since she is the only parent in the household.
Racism and sexism is still alive and well in the US. Our president is black and there are still people that want that nigger out of office. Hilary Clinton wasn't taken seriously as a presidential candidate by lots of people. She'd be too emotional to run a country. We walk around with our guard up because not only do we have to fight hate against us for our color but for our sex as well.
So do black women have attitudes, yes. Are we selfish, yes. Keep in mind that not all women are like this and when we are this way it's not because we want to be, but because we have to be.

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