Releasing Your Shame

We've all done things that we're not proud of. The skeletons that hang in your closet can keep you from attaining the success and happiness that you have always wanted in your life. Why? Because it effects the way you see yourself.  In order to be successful in all parts of your life you must have a positive, healthy self image.If you need an image boost a great place to start is by releasing your shame . Accept it, confront it, and release it.

Accept It
The first step to releasing your shame is to accept the fact that you're not perfect. We're human and we make mistakes, wrong choices, and we hurt other people's feelings. You don't have to be ashamed of being flawed. If you're a spiritual (not religious) person then you believe in a God and you know that he understands that we are sinners and we're not perfect. Whenever a thought of your past shame crosses your mind, tell yourself "God has forgiven me and I forgive myself." and just let it go. If you're not spiritual then just say some forgiveness affirmations like "I'm human so I've made mistakes. I'm past that now and I forgive myself."

Confront It
Usually when you do something you're not proud of you put the experience somewhere deep in the back of your mind and try not to think about it. Not good. You have to confront those feelings. You need to bring them to the surface and face them so that you can release them.  There are a few ways to confront your shame. You can journal or write about it, pray (Out loud. It's important to speak the words.), or you can talk to somebody you trust. Do whatever you're comfortable with doing. Just confront those skeletons!

Release It
After you've accepted and confronted your shame, finally, you can release it. Let it go. Try your best not to think about your shame. When you do just say one of the affirmations I mentioned above and replace the thought with something positive you've done. If your shame involves you hurting somebody else, then it's best to make amends with them. Sometimes trying to apologize and make amends does more harm than good if the person is not in a place where they can forgive you. So make sure that if you want to make amends with someone that they are ready to open those old wounds and forgive you so that they can heal for the both of you.

Once you've released your shame you will get an instant boost to your self esteem. You'll no longer think that you're a horrible person because of your mistakes and you'll have nothing to be ashamed of. Your self image will be improved then you can attract all of the things that your negative attitude has been blocking.