Friends are overrated.
That's how I have felt for quite a while. It wasn't until I decided to start a business that I realized that friends, and foes, are a much needed part of any successful business. How else will you be able to let the world know who you are before anyone cares? Network=Net Worth, right?
I went to a cabaret thrown by a friend this Saturday. Her parties are usually packed with people and leaves everyone waiting for the next one. The last few have been empty and no one seems to kick it with her the way they used to. Our circle is pretty small and not even the normal people showed up. Only two of us. I felt kinda bad for her.
You would like for your friend be the way they are in the movies. We all wish we could be like Thelma & Louise or like the ladies off of "Girlfriends" or "Living Single". There for you no matter what. Supporting your every endeavor. Standing up for you when you need them to and never saying a bad word about you to anyone.
The truth of the matter is, life happens. There are arguments and fights that happen that can't be repaired. Misunderstandings come about and sometimes trust is betrayed. Bad decisions can leave your reputation tarnished so bad that major damage control is needed. So in the end, someone who was once your friend can be more like an acquaintance at any time. Depending on the severity of your misunderstandings and your ability to move on from them.
Lucky for me I do have a few close friends that will be around as long as I am. I cherish them. So if you have just one true friend appreciate them. Because in a world where you have to keep your enemies closer than your friends, allies are your best assets.
Hey Rashida! Boy it took me forever to find the comment box - I must be losing my eyesight or something. Anyway, just wanted to show some love for another sista' that's blogging. I don't find many so its good we're both doing the Blogathon. You can check out my blog at:
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I write mostly about race, politics, global poverty and some pop culture but mostly my blog is dense and intense. Looking forward to reading about you.
You're so right. Even one good friend is a huge blessing.
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Great post! The longer I live the more I cherish my true friends.
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Rashida, I have been thinking the same things and put it down to age and spouses and not really having the energy. Then my daughter graduated college and sent invitations to her friends a month in advance for a big shin dig at her place. Only a few showed up after talking about it for weeks. Laziness? For sure. Rudeness? Most definitely. It made me rethink my own behavior with friends. I still came out ok by the way. I try hard to turn up. Cheers. Dana (chickwithaview.com)
ReplyDeleteI feel ya. I've begun to think it's the "maturing" process. We just don't need each other like we did when we were young, and single. But then I watched my daughter's agony when her friends didn't come to her totally fun college grad party. Because they were lazy and/or rude? (And she's got close friends). So age...? I don't know anymore.
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