Why All We Do Is Fcuk & Fight...

Relationships are more than just boy meets girl and they fall in love. The fairy tale we've been fed since we were little girls is far fetched at best. The reality of it is being in love takes work. Lots of it.
I got the idea for the title of this post from a line in a song by rapper Pimp C.

"She say she love me but all we do is fcuk and fight..."

To me that line represents perfectly the time in a relationship when the going is tough and it's time to put the real work in. Here's what I've learned about navigating through the downs of love...

• No matter how much you love each other, bad times are inevitable.  If you pay close attention to traditional wedding vows you'll see that relationships will not be all happy days and sunshine. For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do you part. This is because no matter how perfect you are together or how much you love each other bad times will come. The sooner you know and understand that the better of a place you will be in mentally when it's time to work through a problem.
• Arguments aren't a cue to break up.  When you have a disagreement with your partner and it leads to an argument, don't automatically assume it's time to bail. Most people argue to make their point. It's just a form of expression. After an argument, make it a point to talk out whatever the argument was about calmly. Once both of you have cooled off and had time to think you can revisit  the issue and solve it without screaming. If arguing is your primary form of communication, however, then you might have a problem. 
• Fight for your relationship to the bitter end.  I was engaged and when the problems in our relationship came i gave up. I assumed that if we were meant to be together I should't have to fight for us. I was WRONG!  I was supposed to do everything I could to make things better. Then if it didn't work it was time to part ways. If you really want to be with your man fight for him. Always do your best to show him you're there for the long haul. Screw what people have to say about your relationship. I've been called stupid and asked why do I continue to work on my relationship. The answer is simple: Because we truly love each other and we want our relationship to survive the hard times. 

If you're going through a hard time with yours I say make the decision now as to if you want to work it out or not. If the answer is yes, stop everything and get to work! Things will work out. If they don't at least you can end things knowing you did all you could. You can move on with no regrets.