Woman Law: 1-5

Thanks to Baller Alert for the list.

Since them men have established 'Man Laws' I thought it would be a great idea to finally establish some laws for us women to live by. I'm going to try and keep this going as long as possible, but for now here are the 'Woman Laws' from 1 through 5.

1 - Thou shall not let thyself go - No matter how comfortable you get, no matter how depressed you get, nothing makes you feel better than looking your best. Just because you have a man doesn't mean that you should forget you have to keep him. You don't have to spend an arm and a leg to keep a fresh manicure and pedicure. Keeping yourself looking good will keep you feeling good. A woman who feels good is a happy woman.

2 - Thou shall not entertain thy haters - So what she's talking about you behind your back? She didn't say it to your face did she? That's right, because she is a coward. So don't entertain her. That's exactly what she wants you to do. She wants all of your attention, that's why she pushes your buttons. Don't even give her the satisfaction. Be the bigger, badder, more mature woman and leave her looking like a fool

3 - Thou will get money - I don't care what you do or how you do it but be resourceful and make your own money. The minute you begin to depend on anyone else to take care of you is the day that you've allowed someone to own you. A woman should never allow herself to be owned. Be the source of your own income. Whether it's working a regular 9-5 or the naked hustle, get your money!

4 - Thou Shall Play the Player - Men say you can't play a player, but what they don't realize is that a woman certainly can. As a woman we should keep our eyes open and be aware of all games being played on us and be ready to turn the table at any given moment. We as women have to reclaim our upper hand.

5 - Thou Shall Behold The Power Of The "P" - One thing we have always had and will always have is the power we hold between our legs. It's been said that as long as you have a vagina you should never be broke. We have the power to get a man to do anything we want. We have the power to make men spend any amount of money, be at our beckon call and apologize to us even when he hasn't done anything wrong. Good sex will make a man leave his mama and get his life right. Use your powers for good, not evil.

Read more: http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/if-the-fellas-can-have-man-law#ixzz2UjCediYb

Life is short, so let it go!

Today (9.15.09), a loved one of mine is being laid to rest. At 23, she left behind two small kids, a huge family, and tons of friends. Her life was just starting and still it ended. It's crazy how God works sometimes. I'm still extremely sad.
April's passing is definitely one of those "life changing" situations. Something that is so deep that you can't help but pick the situation apart and figure out what you're supposed to learn from it. And once you learn, you'll never deter from that new way of thinking and living.
I've been struggling with letting go of past experiences and grudges I've been holding on to. Ignoring and neglecting people that hurt me or simply made me angry. I did away with those people not because I didn't love them anymore, but because I couldn't put my selfish pride away and let it go. Love is not an emotion, it's a choice. You don't HAVE to love somebody. Making the decision to choose love should be selfless and unconditional. Petty arguments and disagreements shouldn't change you decision. Mistakes and miscommunication shouldn't change it either. Pick you battles wisely because some things can't be forgotten, but all things can be forgiven. You'd hate to block your blessings because you're holding on to anger!
There's a quote in the book Twelve Pillars that says: "...The greatest gift the Grand Designer gives us is the gift of people. Yes, relationships can be hard, but they are also what the joy of life is made of." To me this means that the better your relationships are with those you love, the more joyful your life will be. So if there's someone you're estranged from that you still love but haven't buried the hatchet with them, do it as quickly as possible. You'll only be more blessed for it. Don't get it twisted, though! There are people that are bad for you and are better out of your life. Treat those people accordingly.
The last time I saw April we were a another sister/friend, Christie's house so that I could do their hair. I did April's hair, But before I go to do Christie's hair there was an altercation that got out of hand. We said things that were hurtful to each other and I stopped speaking to her. The next time I spoke to Christie was the day April passed. I apologized to her that night. I thought to myself, if Christie was the one to go instead of April I would have so much guilt in my heart! I still loved her dearly, I just held on to my anger for no good reason.
So my outlook on life has changed. I prayed for God to help me to release my past. And he did. I'm very grateful! I just wish he didn't have to take someone so dear to get his point across.
Being hurt by someone you love can cut you deep, but life is short, so let it go!