Girl Raped By Guy She Met On Facebook!

Cy Harp is one of my favorite Ohio artists because his main goal is to be a positive example for the youth. He's raising awareness to rape in his new video. Cy shows why the saying 'Hurt people hurt people' rings true from a man's perspective.

Dear Daddy...

In the black community fatherless households are the norm. The mothers in these homes do the best they can to raise their kids alone, but she can never replace "Daddy".

When a child grows up without a parent it affects them for their entire life.

The documentary "Dear Daddy" chronicles eight young ladies that are struggling with the feelings associated with not having their father in their lives. This makes me appreciate my father being in my life. He wasn't perfect, but he was there. Check the trailer...



The 5 Biggest Lies Men Tell About Black Women

"Tell the truth and shame the devil."

We've all heard our Granny or other older relative say this to us a million times. So why is it that every time I turn around I hear some crazy gossip about me that's completely false? You would think that the rumors would be started by jealous girls, but most of the lies are those told on me by men! I know that as you read this you are running down the list of lies your bitter ex-boyfriend has told about you.. Why they do this, I don't know. But just in case you find yourself hearing some gossip from a guy about one of your homegirls, if he says any of the following things, chances are he's lying!

1. She's a hoe!: What this dude is really trying to say is "She messed around with that other guy, but won't talk to me. Now I'm mad!" Men are always in competition with each other. So when you're the reason he loses the 'Ladies' Man' contest, he will resent you and try his best to make you look bad when you simply weren't interested in him. 
2. That ain't my baby!: Where would Maury Povich be without this lie?! Unless he has taken a DNA test to prove that he isn't the father of the baby in question then the possibility of it being his is very high. The responsibility may be too much for him, he might hate the idea of being connected to the child's mother forever, or he could be plain ol' unsure. Whatever the reason, he'll spit this lie out quick when need be.
3. Black women are Gold Diggers: This couldn't be farther from the truth. Most Black women are single mothers taking care of themselves and their children on their own with no help from anybody. Those that aren't single mothers still have to work and contribute to their household. All we want is a man that is willing to do his part and pay his share. Anything else is a bonus. 
4. We all have bad attitudes: We as Black women do have a certain way we carry ourselves. We are more of a no nonsense type of woman than other races, but history shows that we've had it hard and we have to stand up for ourselves to be successful in this life. However, we're still women and we have a softness to us that only women can have. Our attitude only comes up when we need it, just like any other person. 
5. Every Black woman comes from the ghetto: There are just as many Black people in general that live in rural communities as whites and other races. In my age group there are plenty that were born and raised in the suburbs. Ghetto is more of a mentality or lifestyle than where you live or were raised. Assuming that all Black people grew up in the projects is just ignorant. 

Before you open your mind to believe rumors and your mouth to spread them make sure you check the facts. Always have your own brain and opinions to go off of before you judge people. Black women are the most beautiful and strong women in the world and I am proud to be one of them!

That son of a BITCH! - What to do when you love the man, but HATE his mother.

LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING, BUT IT'S NOT AN EASY ONE.

I'm no stranger to getting my ass kicked by that thing called Love. I let you read the story of my journey to love and happiness, so you already know that. The trials & tribulations that we women go through in relationships seem endless. One of the biggest hurdles I had to get over in a relationship was dealing with my fiance's mother, who I absolutely hated! 

HOW TO LOVE THE MAN, BUT HATE HIS MOTHER

I loved my fiance' with every bone in my body and nothing was going to stop me from marrying him. So if you feel the same way as I did, here are a few tips to help you get along with you're man's mother. 

• Just like the title says: You love the MAN, not his mother. The good news is you don't have to love his mom to be in a happy relationship with him. You do have to at least get along and be cordial though. Don't get caught up into any drama with his mom. Even if she is outright rude to you, keep your cool. If you love your man, you have to let him handle his mother. You don't want to say something to her out of anger that will piss HIM off so bad that he breaks up with you. 
• Always treat his mother the way he wants you to treat her. He's her son. Who better to tell you how to get along with her? If your man says to kill his mom with kindness, do it. If he says ignore her, do that. Stand up to her if that's what he tells you to do. I'm sure with a little patience and persistence, you'll be well on your way to a peaceful relationship with your boyfriend's mother. 
• Use other family members as allies!  Your man isn't the only one who can help you get along with moms. Recruit whichever family member(s) you get along with best to be your ally. Ask them for advice on how to deal with the situation best. Maybe that person could talk to you boyfriend's mother for you and help to build a bridge between you two.

So, talk these tips over with your man tonight and get his input. I know he would have some great feedback for you. And I bet it would mean a lot to him that you're making an effort to get along with his mom for the sake of your relationship. 

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Poem: Never

I have never been in awe of a man
Speechless from his talent and perfection
Showcasing the depth of his mind
I pledged that he would be mine
For he was my male reflection

I have never been in awe of a man
Whose voice demanded my attention
Painting beautiful pictures with his lips
From my soul to my fingertips
I yearn to be the "Perfect Mate" in his vision

I have never been in awe of a man
My intelligence doesn't intimidate him
For we share the same ambition and drive
Creative and authentic at the same time
I am inspired by the different sides of him

I have never been in awe of a man
A man whose heart I have yet to see
But one day his heart will show
And on that day I will know
That the man is now in awe of me!